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Fat People are like Homeless People…just not as hungry

By on January 26, 2009

I’m driving up to Santa Fe yesterday and I’m taken in every bit of what I call “God’s Country”.  The majesty of where I live and my surroundings is so beautiful it’s overwhelming.  If you have never been to New Mexico or the the States that border the “Four Corners” you are truly missing a part of the great country we live in.

I come from a small town in New Jersey not more than 18,000 lived there or probably still live there very upper middle class and as a kid I lived in what was considered the slums of Ridgefield, NJ… the apartments near the park.  My brother’s and I grew up in an incredibly dysfunctional working class family. I look back and remember the feeling of being poor but the reality was that my parents made descent money it was just elusive to us.  Those are word’s for another story…  Being poor felt horrible to me and I vowed never to feel that sense of insecurity again as long as I lived…and it’s been a roller coaster ever since.  That drive and determination took me out of NJ and sent me to NYC, Cincinnati and now Albuquerque, NM… and it got me thinking.

The choices fat people are not one’s of “thrive” they are mostly about survival.  Instead of living their life in forward momentum it seems that of a life stuck in the the rhythm of insanity and circular strides, always coming back to the familiar and comfortable.  This same hold’s true for most homeless people…with one exception.  Most fat people use there job, kids and spouse as an excuse for not having the time to workout and eat sensibly.  Most homeless don’t have those worries.

Like I said it got me to thinking.  If homeless people don’t really have anything tying them down to one place then why the hell would they stay in freezing cold weather in NYC, Cincinnati, Boston and the real stupidity Chicago.  It just doesn’t make sense.  If I was homeless, I would begin walking (if I had to) to a warmer destination.  If I had to brave the winter’s in a cardboard shanty I’d opt for Florida, Texas or Louisiana.  Now I’m not saying that all the homeless should start a mass migration to warmer climates but I just wonder about the mentality.  If you could be homeless wouldn’t you want to take the stress of maybe freezing to death off your list of worries.  Maybe it’s me?

The big reason homeless people don’t move is because they don’t know any better.  Their reality is with the familiar and as shitty as the freezing cold might seem.  They still live in the comfort that it is familiar to them. The familiarity of fat and your surrounding’s of being fat are what keep you fat. Not wanting to challenge yourself to see want’s beyond the fat.  As with my recommendation to homeless people living in the frigid conditions of the Midwest and Northeast to move to warmer climates please get out of the fat comfort zone.

Make the sacrifices necessary to lose the weight, challenge yourself to see the rest of your life the way you want it, not the way someone else thinks you should live.  You really do have a choice.

In this year of change and the battle cry of “Yes, We Can” let’s take our new presidents advice and fight for what is yours…a better life out of the prison of fat.

It’s about time you lose weight fast.

Kimer says:

My I don’t know who should be writing you blog you or this person because it seems to me they just rewrote what you already said talk about rereading the same thing all over again.

Dawn says:

Your famous line is “Attitude is Everything” and I believe just as homeless people are stuck because of their attitude so are fat people. It’s all in the mind, if people succeed or if they fail. Just as you mentioned growing up in an incredibly dysfunctional family I can promise you that most homeless people and also most fat people did too. That’s where it begins, that’s where a person loses their belief they can do anything, their belief in themselves. Sure some people can pull themselves out of that and do ok but not all. Some just keep going in circles. Some can have everything but are still in a fat body because though on the surface they pretend they believe in themselves deep down they still don’t.

You wrote:
“The big reason homeless people don’t move is because they don’t know any better. Their reality is with the familiar and as shitty as the freezing cold might seem. They still live in the comfort that it is familiar to them. The familiarity of fat and your surrounding’s of being fat are what keep you fat. Not wanting to challenge yourself to see want’s beyond the fat. As with my recommendation to homeless people living in the frigid conditions of the Midwest and Northeast to move to warmer climates please get out of the fat comfort zone.”

I do believe fat people know better, most are intelligent people. But I agree with you that most stick with the familiar because it’s what they know, it’s what’s comfortable to them. I also think that most fat people don’t want to see what’s beyond the fat deep down. I don’t think it’s always intentional I believe most of the time it’s subconsciously and it’s fear and also not believing they can do it so they think why bother. There are so many more elements to being fat than just challenging ourselves. I believe that really without therapy no fat person (or homeless person) will ever truly change. To be that 2-5% that loses the weight and keeps it off you have to really change your mind not just your body.

You also wrote:

“Make the sacrifices necessary to lose the weight, challenge yourself to see the rest of your life the way you want it, not the way someone else thinks you should live. You really do have a choice.”

I agree that to lose the weight a person has to make sacrifices and challenge themselves but if they don’t believe in themselves they won’t even try. As for it being how someone else thinks they should live it’s just about how they think they should live. I can promise you that every fat person has low self esteem and doesn’t believe enough in themselves to know they CAN DO IT that they have the power to truly change. They don’t realize that they do have a choice. They believe they will just keep failing. It’s sad but true.

I wish more people could change their battle cry to “Yes, We Can” because living in a prison of fat is not really living.